Did you know that empathy and compassion can be powerful for connection and healing? They can also get in the way of us keeping boundaries and releasing what needs to go. Knowing where the line is can literally be the difference between healing and suffering.

When the same quality that can connect us can be the same thing that keeps us stuck in unhealthy dynamics, life becomes foggy and confusing.

It is confusing because having compassion and empathy is how we connect authentically. The lines become blurred when empathy and compassion are without boundaries and consequences. When we often find ourselves permitting behavior and patterns that do not work for our growth, we find ourselves in a foggy and confused state. We find ourselves excusing bad behaviors or rationalizing far too much.

Growth is when we can discern what is hurting us versus what is pushing us into a better place. Letting go of what is not working is part of our process of healing. When we make a deliberate decision to honor what is acceptable for us, while having compassion and empathy for the other person and ourselves, we are operating in a self-loving way. Here is an example of what having compassion and empathy looks like while being true to you and standing firm with your boundaries.

“I understand why you’re struggling and are having trouble showing up for this relationship in (x,y,z), ways, but what you’re doing feels dishonorable to me. I don’t want to be in this relationship anymore in this way”.

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I will leave you with this question to ponder. What areas are you letting compassion and empathy take over?

Sincerely,
Vania

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